Where is everyone — the plan

Weekly through the fall. Location for each of you, who covers Silvana's daytime, who's home at night.

Location: OhioSF DCNYNamibiaMexico solo-parenting = the other parent is away that week

Top toggle is where you're based: DC-only (Ohio then DC, Rob commutes) · Hybrid (Ohio with a solo onboarding trip, then 5 weeks all in SF) · SF-start (relocate to SF for the whole stretch). Sub-toggle is the start date. No nanny until you're permanently in DC. Assumes Claudia does UNGA, not Delhi. Claudia is in Namibia the week of Nov 16. Norma can do up to 6 weeks and covers the SF stays; Laurie anchors DC.

DC-only · Sept 15: Ohio through September (Rob commutes to SF), move to DC early October, Laurie anchors. Margaret does 1 week, Norma covers Sep 21–Oct 2. Dates 2026.
WeekRobClaudiaSilvanaDaytime careNights
August — on leave in Ohio
Aug 3–31optional DC orientationOhioOhioOhioparents on leave · Margaret as neededRob + Claudia
September — Ohio, Rob commutes to SF
Aug 31–Sep 4OhioOhioOhioRob on leaveRob + Claudia
Sep 7–11OhioOhioOhioRob on leaveRob + Claudia
Sep 14–18▸ Rob starts Sep 15 · SF wk 1SFOhioOhioMargaretClaudia solo
Sep 21–25UNGAOhioremoteNew YorkOhioNormaRob solo
Sep 28–Oct 2SF wk 2 + Sept 28–29 mtgSFOhioOhioNormaClaudia solo
October — move to DC (temp housing), Laurie anchors
Oct 5–9move into DC temp housing (free)OhioDCOhioDCOhioDCLaurie beginsRob + Claudia
Oct 12–16settle + house-huntDCDCDCLaurieRob + Claudia
Oct 19–23extra team week · SFSFDCDCLaurieClaudia solo
Oct 26–30team retreat · SFSFDCDCLaurieClaudia solo
November — DC (permanent), Laurie anchors
Nov 2–6lease starts · temp housing endsDCDCDCLaurieRob + Claudia
Nov 9–13DCDCDCLaurieRob + Claudia
Nov 16–20Claudia in NamibiaDCNamibiaDCLaurieRob solo
Nov 23–27ThanksgivingDCDCDCLaurieRob + Claudia
December–January — DC, then 4 weeks in Mexico
Dec 1–5possible move-inDCDCDC?Rob + Claudia
Dec 7–11Mexico · wk 1 of 4MexicoMexicoMexico?Rob + Claudia
Dec 14–18wk 2 of 4MexicoMexicoMexico?Rob + Claudia
Dec 21–25wk 3 · ChristmasMexicoMexicoMexiconone needed — Rob on breakRob + Claudia
Dec 28–Jan 1wk 4 · New YearMexicoMexicoMexiconone needed — Rob on breakRob + Claudia
Jan 5 →school opensDCDCDCschool / daycareRob + Claudia

Worth knowing

  • 6 solo-parenting weeks — Claudia holds 4 (Rob's SF weeks), Rob holds 2 (UNGA + Namibia).
  • Coverage is comfortable: Margaret does just Sep 14–18, Norma covers Sep 21–Oct 2, Laurie anchors from the move on (including the Namibia week).
  • Cheapest, and Laurie anchors soonest.
  • Flights this fall (round trip = 2): Rob 8 · Claudia 4 · Silvana 0 — you drive to DC, so Silvana never flies; Rob's four SF round trips, Claudia's UNGA + Namibia.
DC-only · Sept 1: Rob commutes from week one, so Margaret carries three straight weeks (her max) before Norma arrives Sep 21. The most solo-parenting of any plan. Dates 2026.
WeekRobClaudiaSilvanaDaytime careNights
August — on leave in Ohio
Aug 3–28optional DC orientationOhioOhioOhioparents on leave · Margaret as neededRob + Claudia
September — Ohio, Rob commutes to SF (heavy)
Aug 31–Sep 4▸ Rob starts Sep 1 · SF wk 1SFOhioOhioMargaret — wk 1Claudia solo
Sep 7–11Labor Day MonSFOhioOhioMargaret — wk 2Claudia solo
Sep 14–18OhioremoteOhioOhioMargaret — wk 3 (max) ⚠Rob + Claudia
Sep 21–25UNGAOhioNew YorkOhioNormaRob solo
Sep 28–Oct 2SF · Sept 28–29 mtgSFOhioOhioNormaClaudia solo
October — move to DC (temp housing), Laurie anchors
Oct 5–9move into DC temp housing (free)OhioDCOhioDCOhioDCLaurie beginsRob + Claudia
Oct 12–16settle + house-huntDCDCDCLaurieRob + Claudia
Oct 19–23extra team week · SFSFDCDCLaurieClaudia solo
Oct 26–30team retreat · SFSFDCDCLaurieClaudia solo
November — DC (permanent), Laurie anchors
Nov 2–6lease starts · temp housing endsDCDCDCLaurieRob + Claudia
Nov 9–13DCDCDCLaurieRob + Claudia
Nov 16–20Claudia in NamibiaDCNamibiaDCLaurieRob solo
Nov 23–27ThanksgivingDCDCDCLaurieRob + Claudia
December–January — DC, then 4 weeks in Mexico
Dec 1–5possible move-inDCDCDC?Rob + Claudia
Dec 7–11Mexico · wk 1 of 4MexicoMexicoMexico?Rob + Claudia
Dec 14–18wk 2 of 4MexicoMexicoMexico?Rob + Claudia
Dec 21–25wk 3 · ChristmasMexicoMexicoMexiconone needed — Rob on breakRob + Claudia
Dec 28–Jan 1wk 4 · New YearMexicoMexicoMexiconone needed — Rob on breakRob + Claudia
Jan 5 →school opensDCDCDCschool / daycareRob + Claudia

Worth knowing

  • 7 solo-parenting weeks — the most of any plan (Claudia 5, Rob 2).
  • Margaret is maxed: three straight weeks (Sep 1–20) before Norma can arrive on the 21st. Everything holds, but there's no slack in that first stretch.
  • Buys you +$15k of pay, earlier ramp, and an IPO-gap hedge.
  • Flights this fall (round trip = 2): Rob 10 · Claudia 4 · Silvana 0 — you drive to DC, so Silvana never flies; five SF round trips for Rob, UNGA + Namibia for Claudia.
Hybrid · Sept 15: Rob flies solo to SF for onboarding, back to Ohio where Margaret covers daytime, then the whole family goes to SF for 5 weeks (Norma covers), and Laurie takes over in DC in November. Margaret has Ohio, Norma has SF, Laurie has DC. Dates 2026.
WeekRobClaudiaSilvanaDaytime careNights
August — on leave in Ohio (Margaret covers)
Aug 3–31line up SF Airbnb · hunt DC in NovOhioOhioOhioMargaret (Ohio)Rob + Claudia
September — Ohio (Margaret covers), Rob's solo onboarding trip
Aug 31–Sep 4OhioOhioOhioMargaret (Ohio)Rob + Claudia
Sep 7–11OhioOhioOhioMargaret (Ohio)Rob + Claudia
Sep 14–18▸ Rob starts Sep 15 · solo SF tripSFOhioOhioMargaret (Ohio)Claudia solo
Sep 21–25UNGA · Rob back in OhioOhioNew YorkOhioMargaret (Ohio)Rob solo
Late Sept–Oct — all in SF for 5 weeks (Norma covers)
Sep 28–Oct 2family to SF · Sept 28–29 mtgSFSFSFNorma (SF) — wk 1Rob + Claudia
Oct 5–9no SF requirementSFSFSFNorma (SF) — wk 2Rob + Claudia
Oct 12–16no SF req · DC hunt trip?SFSFSFNorma (SF) — wk 3Rob + Claudia
Oct 19–23extra team weekSFSFSFNorma (SF) — wk 4Rob + Claudia
Oct 26–30team retreatSFSFSFNorma (SF) — wk 5Rob + Claudia
November — move to DC, house-hunt (Laurie takes over)
Nov 2–6move into DC temp housing (free)SFDCSFDCSFDCLaurie joins in DCRob + Claudia
Nov 9–13house-huntDCDCDCLaurieRob + Claudia
Nov 16–20Claudia in NamibiaDCNamibiaDCLaurieRob solo
Nov 23–27Thanksgiving · house-huntDCDCDCLaurieRob + Claudia
December–January — DC, then 4 weeks in Mexico
Dec 1–5lease starts ~Dec 1 · move inDCDCDC?Rob + Claudia
Dec 7–11Mexico · wk 1 of 4MexicoMexicoMexico?Rob + Claudia
Dec 14–18wk 2 of 4MexicoMexicoMexico?Rob + Claudia
Dec 21–25wk 3 · ChristmasMexicoMexicoMexiconone needed — Rob on breakRob + Claudia
Dec 28–Jan 1wk 4 · New YearMexicoMexicoMexiconone needed — Rob on breakRob + Claudia
Jan 5 →school opensDCDCDCschool / daycareRob + Claudia

Worth knowing

  • 3 solo-parenting weeks — Rob's solo onboarding trip (Claudia solo), UNGA (Rob solo), and Namibia (Rob solo).
  • Cleanest division of labor: Margaret is the standing daytime cover the whole time you're in Ohio (she's right there), Norma covers all 5 SF weeks, and Laurie only ever works in DC, from November. Nobody travels to help who doesn't want to.
  • Housing: 5-week SF Airbnb ≈ net ~$0 after the delayed DC rent.
  • Flights this fall (round trip = 2): Rob 4 · Claudia 6 · Silvana 2 — Rob's onboarding round trip + two relocations; Claudia adds UNGA and Namibia.
Hybrid · Sept 1: same shape, earlier start — Rob solo to SF the first week, back to Ohio (Margaret covers), then 5 weeks all in SF from Sep 28 (Norma covers), Laurie in DC from November. Adds +$15k, but the onboarding week only works because Claudia's home. Dates 2026.
WeekRobClaudiaSilvanaDaytime careNights
August — on leave in Ohio (Margaret covers)
Aug 3–28line up SF Airbnb · hunt DC in NovOhioOhioOhioMargaret (Ohio)Rob + Claudia
September — Ohio (Margaret covers), Rob's solo onboarding trip
Aug 31–Sep 4▸ Rob starts Sep 1 · solo SF tripSFOhioOhioMargaret (Ohio)Claudia solo
Sep 7–11Labor Day MonOhioremoteOhioOhioMargaret (Ohio)Rob + Claudia
Sep 14–18OhioremoteOhioOhioMargaret (Ohio)Rob + Claudia
Sep 21–25UNGAOhioNew YorkOhioMargaret (Ohio)Rob solo
Late Sept–Oct — all in SF for 5 weeks (Norma covers)
Sep 28–Oct 2family to SF · Sept 28–29 mtgSFSFSFNorma (SF) — wk 1Rob + Claudia
Oct 5–9no SF requirementSFSFSFNorma (SF) — wk 2Rob + Claudia
Oct 12–16no SF req · DC hunt trip?SFSFSFNorma (SF) — wk 3Rob + Claudia
Oct 19–23extra team weekSFSFSFNorma (SF) — wk 4Rob + Claudia
Oct 26–30team retreatSFSFSFNorma (SF) — wk 5Rob + Claudia
November — move to DC, house-hunt (Laurie takes over)
Nov 2–6move into DC temp housing (free)SFDCSFDCSFDCLaurie joins in DCRob + Claudia
Nov 9–13house-huntDCDCDCLaurieRob + Claudia
Nov 16–20Claudia in NamibiaDCNamibiaDCLaurieRob solo
Nov 23–27Thanksgiving · house-huntDCDCDCLaurieRob + Claudia
December–January — DC, then 4 weeks in Mexico
Dec 1–5lease starts ~Dec 1 · move inDCDCDC?Rob + Claudia
Dec 7–11Mexico · wk 1 of 4MexicoMexicoMexico?Rob + Claudia
Dec 14–18wk 2 of 4MexicoMexicoMexico?Rob + Claudia
Dec 21–25wk 3 · ChristmasMexicoMexicoMexiconone needed — Rob on breakRob + Claudia
Dec 28–Jan 1wk 4 · New YearMexicoMexicoMexiconone needed — Rob on breakRob + Claudia
Jan 5 →school opensDCDCDCschool / daycareRob + Claudia

Worth knowing

  • 3 solo-parenting weeks — the solo onboarding trip (Claudia solo), UNGA (Rob solo), and Namibia (Rob solo).
  • Margaret is the standing daytime cover in Ohio all of August and September, Norma covers the 5 SF weeks, Laurie takes over in DC in November. The solo onboarding week only works because Claudia's home — if she went to Delhi instead, no parent would be in Ohio at night that week.
  • Housing: 5-week SF Airbnb ≈ net ~$0 after delayed DC rent; plus +$15k of earlier pay and a Labor Day 4-day week.
  • Flights this fall (round trip = 2): Rob 4 · Claudia 6 · Silvana 2.
SF-start · Sept 15: relocate to SF for the start, stay through the retreat (~6.5 wks), move to DC early Nov. Fewest solo weeks, and Norma's 6 weeks cover the whole SF stay so Laurie never leaves DC. Dates 2026.
WeekRobClaudiaSilvanaDaytime careNights
August — on leave in Ohio
Aug 3–31line up SF Airbnb · hunt DC in NovOhioOhioOhioparents on leave · Margaret as neededRob + Claudia
September — relocate to SF
Aug 31–Sep 4OhioOhioOhioRob on leaveRob + Claudia
Sep 7–11OhioOhioOhioRob on leaveRob + Claudia
Sep 14–18▸ Rob starts Sep 15 · relocate to SFSFSFSFMargaret (travels to SF)Rob + Claudia
Sep 21–25UNGASFNew YorkSFNorma (SF) — wk 1Rob solo
Sep 28–Oct 2Sept 28–29 mtgSFSFSFNorma (SF) — wk 2Rob + Claudia
October — still in SF (Norma covers)
Oct 5–9no SF requirementSFSFSFNorma (SF) — wk 3Rob + Claudia
Oct 12–16no SF req · DC hunt trip?SFSFSFNorma (SF) — wk 4Rob + Claudia
Oct 19–23extra team weekSFSFSFNorma (SF) — wk 5Rob + Claudia
Oct 26–30team retreatSFSFSFNorma (SF) — wk 6Rob + Claudia
November — move to DC, house-hunt (Laurie takes over)
Nov 2–6move into DC temp housing (free)SFDCSFDCSFDCLaurie joins in DCRob + Claudia
Nov 9–13house-huntDCDCDCLaurieRob + Claudia
Nov 16–20Claudia in NamibiaDCNamibiaDCLaurieRob solo
Nov 23–27Thanksgiving · house-huntDCDCDCLaurieRob + Claudia
December–January — DC, then 4 weeks in Mexico
Dec 1–5lease starts ~Dec 1 · move inDCDCDC?Rob + Claudia
Dec 7–11Mexico · wk 1 of 4MexicoMexicoMexico?Rob + Claudia
Dec 14–18wk 2 of 4MexicoMexicoMexico?Rob + Claudia
Dec 21–25wk 3 · ChristmasMexicoMexicoMexiconone needed — Rob on breakRob + Claudia
Dec 28–Jan 1wk 4 · New YearMexicoMexicoMexiconone needed — Rob on breakRob + Claudia
Jan 5 →school opensDCDCDCschool / daycareRob + Claudia

Worth knowing

  • 2 solo-parenting weeks — Claudia's UNGA trip and her Namibia trip (both leave Rob solo).
  • Coverage is clean: Margaret 1 week, Norma covers the whole SF stint (Sep 21–Oct 30, her wish), Laurie anchors DC from November — no one dragged out of place.
  • Housing is nearly a wash: ~$6–7k Airbnb out of pocket, but your DC lease starts ~a month later, saving ~$5k of rent — net ~$1–2k. Needs Claudia remote from SF ~6 weeks; Oct 12–16 is the natural DC house-hunt window.
  • Flights this fall (round trip = 2): Rob 2 · Claudia 6 · Silvana 2 — Rob barely flies; family relocates twice; Claudia also does UNGA + Namibia.
SF-start · Sept 1: relocate to SF, stay through the retreat (~8.5 wks). Only 2 solo weeks and no India risk; Margaret is maxed the first 3 weeks, then Norma covers the rest of the SF stay. Dates 2026.
WeekRobClaudiaSilvanaDaytime careNights
August — on leave in Ohio
Aug 3–28line up SF Airbnb · hunt DC in NovOhioOhioOhioparents on leave · Margaret as neededRob + Claudia
September — relocate to SF
Aug 31–Sep 4▸ Rob starts Sep 1 · relocate to SFSFSFSFMargaret — wk 1Rob + Claudia
Sep 7–11Labor Day MonSFSFSFMargaret — wk 2Rob + Claudia
Sep 14–18SFSFSFMargaret — wk 3 (max) ⚠Rob + Claudia
Sep 21–25UNGASFNew YorkSFNorma (SF) — wk 1Rob solo
Sep 28–Oct 2Sept 28–29 mtgSFSFSFNorma (SF) — wk 2Rob + Claudia
October — still in SF (Norma covers)
Oct 5–9no SF requirementSFSFSFNorma (SF) — wk 3Rob + Claudia
Oct 12–16no SF req · DC hunt trip?SFSFSFNorma (SF) — wk 4Rob + Claudia
Oct 19–23extra team weekSFSFSFNorma (SF) — wk 5Rob + Claudia
Oct 26–30team retreatSFSFSFNorma (SF) — wk 6Rob + Claudia
November — move to DC, house-hunt (Laurie takes over)
Nov 2–6move into DC temp housing (free)SFDCSFDCSFDCLaurie joins in DCRob + Claudia
Nov 9–13house-huntDCDCDCLaurieRob + Claudia
Nov 16–20Claudia in NamibiaDCNamibiaDCLaurieRob solo
Nov 23–27Thanksgiving · house-huntDCDCDCLaurieRob + Claudia
December–January — DC, then 4 weeks in Mexico
Dec 1–5lease starts ~Dec 1 · move inDCDCDC?Rob + Claudia
Dec 7–11Mexico · wk 1 of 4MexicoMexicoMexico?Rob + Claudia
Dec 14–18wk 2 of 4MexicoMexicoMexico?Rob + Claudia
Dec 21–25wk 3 · ChristmasMexicoMexicoMexiconone needed — Rob on breakRob + Claudia
Dec 28–Jan 1wk 4 · New YearMexicoMexicoMexiconone needed — Rob on breakRob + Claudia
Jan 5 →school opensDCDCDCschool / daycareRob + Claudia

Worth knowing

  • 2 solo-parenting weeks — UNGA and Namibia (both leave Rob solo). The India risk also disappears (Silvana's in SF with you).
  • Coverage holds cleanly: Margaret carries the first 3 weeks (max), Norma then covers Sep 21–Oct 30 in SF, and Laurie anchors DC from November.
  • ~$8–9k Airbnb out of pocket, minus ~$5k of DC rent you delay = net ~$3–4k, and the +$15k of earlier pay more than covers it. Needs Claudia remote from SF ~2 months.
  • Flights this fall (round trip = 2): Rob 2 · Claudia 6 · Silvana 2 — like Sept 15: Rob barely flies, family relocates twice, Claudia adds UNGA + Namibia.

Compare the six (no nanny)

DC · Sept 15DC · Sept 1Hybrid · Sept 15Hybrid · Sept 1SF · Sept 15SF · Sept 1
Solo-parenting weeks673322
FlightsRob · Claudia · Silvana (RT = 2)8 · 4 · 010 · 4 · 04 · 6 · 24 · 6 · 22 · 6 · 22 · 6 · 2
The edgecheapest · Laurie soonestmost pay · Margaret maxedmiddle path · nobody stretchedmiddle path · most payfewest splits · togetherfewest splits · no India · most pay

Rough figures. DC rent (~$5k/mo) is the same long-term across plans; the SF and Hybrid plans just start it ~a month later, saving ~$5k once — that's the net cost shown. Extra pay is ~two weeks of base salary. No nanny until you're in the permanent DC place. Norma can do up to 6 weeks (from ~Sep 21) and covers the SF stays; Laurie anchors DC; in the Hybrid, Margaret is the standing daytime cover while you're in Ohio. Claudia's mid-November Namibia trip is a round trip for her in every plan. Excludes the unresolved IPO-gap question, which would add weight to a Sept 1 start. Flights count air travel only (round trip = 2): the Ohio→DC move is a drive, so Silvana never flies in the DC plans; the Hybrid and SF plans fly the family to SF, then to DC. Not financial advice.